Some call it the “Sugar Daddy Syndrome” while others call it the “Daddy issues” complex and it seems like everybody has a strong opinion about it. A lot of people have no problem with it, while many find it sick and perverted. Regardless of your own personal views, young women dating older men is a worldwide phenomenon that is gaining popularity and acceptance at an alarming rate. But, why? And what is attracting these young, attractive women, to settle down with slow-paced, elderly men? We all know the gold-digger issue, but other than that, what gives?
Come on, you can’t say you’ve never been attracted to a man who’s honestly old enough to be your dad. Not late 20’s or early 30’s. Like, legit 40 and up. Is it wrong? Maybe. Is it exhilarating as hell? Definitely.
Your mature side comes out.
When you’re around this man, whether he’s a prof, a doctor, or therapist, you blossom into a mature, vibrant, young woman. You act like you’ve been through some shit. You talk about bills and priorities and your job (that you don’t have yet). It’s a fun role to play, and it makes you feel like you’re hot shit.
You embrace your sexy physique.
Since you are a 20-something college gal, this guy obviously notices that you’re attractive. Though he might not openly reveal those feelings, he’s probably extra appreciative because of his age. Office hours or appointments are your opportunity to look good, and show him why you’re unique. Work it, girl.
You’re invested in how established they are.
It’s probably one of the main reasons you are attracted to older men. Their maturity and ability to be responsible (and actually have disposable income) is extremely intriguing. Listen up college guys, this is what we’re really looking for.
An older man knows how to treat a woman.
Set aside the creepy ones who just want to get in your pants; and you’ll find a man who is more invested in making you feel appreciated. Older guys know what a woman deserves and they’re prepared to give it to you. Take advantage of that while you can. There’s no shame in being spoiled.
All joking aside, you should know what you’re getting yourself into when getting involved with an older man. Don’t make stupid choices, and make sure you know this man well enough to be seriously attached to him. And PSA: if he’s married, LEAVE THAT HIM ALONE. Obvious but necessary disclaimer.
Children are not your #1 priority
Older men often either already have children of their own, or may not be open to having more (or able to!). Some young women find this very appealing and therefore find older men more attractive than younger men for a life-long mate. Deciding to have children or not can be a huge stress in any relationship, financially, emotionally and physically. Children add a huge element to a couple’s life. All of their focus is soon directed at their kiddo, instead of themselves. For younger couples this idea of giving up the spotlight is less than appealing. However, some women feel the pressure to have kids, yet truly have no desire to do so. Enter the older man, who cannot, or will not have children. A perfect fit.
You’re afraid of cheaters
With more life experiences, generally come more relationships. Older men tend to be more devoted to their partners and normally do not run around flirting and sleeping with a bunch of women – they already did that in their 20s! They’ve moved on from the promiscuous phase, and are actually ready to settle and ditch their boyish dating games. Women who have a history of being cheated on, most likely still hold a paranoia and deep emotional scar that they are scared to have re-opened. Typically, older men are less likely to cheat, but be sure that that behavior is not in their past. Just because they are older, doesn’t mean they are saints, it only suggests that they are less likely to cheat than younger men.