The life of a military spouse is often not an easy one. Deployments can keep their service member away for months, if not years, at a time. Long working hours mean they don’t get to work an 8-5 schedule, and weekends off? Please. And training means that they might be taken away from their family for months at a time on top of all of that. It’s not uncommon to hear spouses say they feel like a single parent, because they often have to single-handedly take care of their children and keep the house in order, all by themselves. Given that, it’s easy to become stressed out… and to become bitter and resentful, too.
One Army wife wanted to show some appreciation for her husband, and point out that while it may feel like military spouses are doing everything alone, their service members are working hard, too. Deidre Sanford was cleaning up after her husband, starting to feel resentful of her husband for coming home and sitting on the couch, not helping out much. But then she picked up his combat boots, just a few months old and rotated through other pairs of boots he had, and noticed that the soles of the boots had holes worn in them already. And she suddenly realized just how hard her husband worked every day.
The post was shared on the Fort Campbell Army Wives page on Facebook, and it quickly went viral.
It was shared thousands of times, and military spouses and civilian spouses alike found themselves agreeing with Sanford’s post. Photos of worn out work boots were shared, and Sanford began receiving messages offering to buy her husband a new pair of boots — but she declined, instead asking that the boots went soldiers, the homeless, or to struggling families. And while some wives were angry about the post, saying that they aren’t their husbands’ slaves, Sanford insisted that wasn’t her point. “My husband comes home tired everyday. But he puts that aside and puts a smile on his face for his children and me when he comes home. He’s a amazing man. I’m very lucky to be his wife and be able to appreciate the things he is doing for our family and our country. I’m very proud of him.”