No matter the age, sometimes kids need a dose of tough love to get their attitudes in check. After bragging about making his own money and lying about doing his homework, Aaron Havisham, a 13-year-old from Australia, learned his lesson the hard way.
In an epic letter that his mom posted to Facebook, Estella (she goes by a pen name to protect her identity) presented Aaron with a monthly bill for $717 — not including a potential $30 maid fee — and an explanation that itemized his new expenses and daily responsibilities. In the stern note, she made her expectations clear that if he wanted to continue acting like a roommate rather than a respectful child, he’d have to pay up.
“Since you seem to have forgotten that you are only 13 and I’m the parent, and that you won’t be controlled, I guess you will need to learn a lesson in independence,” the letter starts out. “Also, as you threw in my face that you are making money now, it will be easier to buy back all the items I bought for you in the past. If you would like your lamp/lightbulbs or access to the internet, you will need to pay your share of costs.”
The viral message — which was left outside her son’s door to find when he woke up the next morning — has made a clear statement: don’t mess with mom!
Hey, at least she signed the letter “Love, Mom.” But love aside, this mom means business. And she proved it by publishing the note on Facebook. Within hours the note became a subject of praise and scrutiny. Some mothers applauded Estella’s tough love, while others deemed it too harsh.
Shortly after the post went viral, Estella appeared to publish another post that addressed some of the mom-judging and lent context to her note. Facebook user Heidi Johnson — possibly the real name of Estella Havisham — shared the post.
“I see that a lot of people have varying opinions on my letter to my son,” she wrote in the follow-up post. “It was originally intended for friends, but I clicked public on accident. It’s out there; and I am not ashamed of what I wrote. I am not keeping it out for likes, dislikes, or anything like that. People can feel free to read and take whatever they like from it. Though, I do feel like I may need to clarify a few things,” the note read.
The mother went on to explain that Aaron has been making money from his YouTube channel, and also lied about doing his homework. She said she’s a single mom who is living with chronic health issues, and that she would never let her son end up on the street if he didn’t start paying up.
“He has apologized multiple times,” she wrote. “He even removed some luxuries from his room that I missed. And… he is trying harder. Just because he is doing things better doesn’t mean he gets everything back in one grandeur leap of faith; he earns a little back at a time. The necessities are the first to be earned back… then, the luxuries.”