“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
A partnership is complicated, and one that is successful is both complicated and an art form. Being in a successful partnership is a learned skill; t takes patience, forgiveness, determination and hard work. The key to a successful partnership is to be mindful in the relationship, stay in a positive space as much as possible and to find laughter and fun in every day despite the challenges that will inevitably arise.
There has to be a solid foundation built on trust and understanding. It should be no surprise that you must like each other as much as you love each other to succeed together. You must be willing to do the work and be patient with one another while forging your path. As you learn to be good together, you will create a shared experience that will end up making your relationship successful.
Here are 10 traits that help couples succeed:
They Have a Shared Purpose
A strong sense of purpose shared with your partner will empower you both to be your best selves. The purpose is more than having a successful relationship it should be significant, have deep meaning and be well-defined. It might be something like reducing your carbon footprint or a lifelong quest to see every country. Whatever your purpose it should excite you both.
They Enjoy Being of Service
Strong partnerships are rooted in being of service to others. Giving, contributing, and helping others and your community provides value to both the people you are serving and to your relationship. Volunteering often provides more benefits to those who do the volunteering than those who receive help. Sharing in doing good brings that good back into your relationship.
They Are Quick to Forgive
It’s practically impossible to chart a path towards success without some missteps. Holding on to grudges is one way to derail the relationship altogether. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. It allows you and your partner both to move on and grow from the experience.
They’re Supportive of Each Other’s Individuality
To be successful as a couple, each person must be successful in their own right. Who you are as an individual is a big part of the bigger picture. To be successful as a couple, both partners must honor and support the things that make up the person, not just the entity of the couple.
They Talk About Money
Money is one of the major reasons why relationships fail, so for a relationship to succeed both partners need to get real about the money. Take the fear out of the money piece by talking about it and by being honest about the bottom line. It’s easy to handle money challenges when both of you are completely aware of the situation.
They Find The Humor
No one will argue that life is hard. The best way to survive the hard times is to find humor and laughter. Granted, humor isn’t found in all situations but seek out humor to lighten the mood whenever you can and when it’s appropriate.
They Know How to Pick Their Battles
Somethings are worth fighting for and other things – well, not so much. Successful couples do not waste time fighting about things that don’t matter over the long term. They pick their battles around things that matter to them individually, to them as a couple and to the success of their relationship. And when they do fight they fight fair.
They Take Responsibility for Their Own Happiness
Happier people are more successful, and a partnership is better off when both partners are happy. The thing is happy people also know that no one else can make them happy and that they must handle their own happiness.
They Value Their Differences
It’s the differences in each person and what they bring to a relationship that is often the reason a relationship succeeds. Relationships are a give and take and rely on the strengths that each person brings to help it grow. Respecting and valuing the differences in each other makes it so each person is comfortable contributing to the relationship.
They Practice Gratitude
Gratitude is the foundation for building a successful relationship. It keeps the focus on what is working and helps you learn from what is holding the relationship back. When a couple practices gratitude in their relationship, they make their relationship a priority, and there is no greater recipe for success.
While none of these traits will guarantee a successful, long-lasting relationship, it is safe to say they can only help make any relationship stronger. It is the combination of the best of ourselves paired with the best of our partner in a respectful space that will keep the relationship growing and evolving into a successful partnership.
“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.” – Aristotle